Lesson 3. Attitudes of a Good Mentor in Mentoring Relationship Phases

There are four basic phases in mentoring relationships. Each phase has different features and involves contribution by the mentor.

1. Initiation Phase: In this phase, the mentoring relationship starts out. The mentor and mentee get to know one another. The mentor creates a warm and respectful atmosphere.
2. Cultivation Phase: Optimum benefit from the relationship is gained thanks to the right questions from the mentor. These benefits apply to both mentor and mentee. The mentor also plans useful meetings with clear target topic.
3. Separation Phase: This phase creates a more confident and self-reliant mentee. All discussions and sharing between mentor and mentee make way for success. The mentor gives the mentee the chance to transform all theories into practice.
4. Redefinition Phase: A good mentor knows how to behave in a friendly manner especially in the redefinition phase. This phase will only be reached if the mentor gives the mentee enough time to realize and comprehend all the processes they have been through.

We need to state that understanding the viewpoint and needs of a mentee & constructing the learning environment according to a mentee are two main elements to having a well-balanced mentoring relationship. During the whole mentoring process, the mentor should be aware of the mentee’s needs. The mentee should feel free to share his/her preferences about creating the learning environment. It is crucial to decide about all the details of the mentoring sessions with the contributions of both the mentor and mentee.